There are things that have been planted in you at youth that have taken root but need to be removed. You’ve been carrying it around for far too long. No more.
You’re cute but not beautiful. You’re too dark. You’re not good enough. You do not deserve. You’re not smart. You could never do that.
It’s all lies. It’s simply not true. It keeps you stuck where you are.
I was named big head as a kid. People called me big head all the time. So I walked around really believing that I had a big head. I was very skinny growing up. I was called all kinds of skinny names. I hated my feet. I thought they were too big. I hated my legs. I thought they were too small. I hated all of my “imperfections”… stretch marks, blemishes, dark circles, hammertoes, kinky hair with mega shrinkage, etc.
I didn’t think that I was beautiful. I didn’t feel pretty. I was so blinded by other people’s “messages” that I couldn’t even see my beauty. I surely couldn’t accept someone telling me that I was beautiful because I didn’t believe it was true.
It was a long road to self-love, acceptance and confidence. It’s never perfected. It’s a daily practice and a continuous process. On top of our own feelings of not being good enough, we live in a society that constantly reaffirms inadequacies. Be this way, look like this, wear this, buy that, enhance this, lose that, etc… yada yada yada.
It’s time to get rid of the negative messaging. It’s time to erase self-limiting beliefs. It’s time for new programming. #backspace #delete #newupload #newdownloadcomplete
How does one begin this process? Try practicing PEACE daily. Shuffle and repeat.
Positive self-talk towards yourself.
I’m fat. I’m ugly. I’m so stupid. Scratch it! Just stop. Words have power. What you say and confess is what will be. Only use positive language towards yourself that will uplift and encourage you.
Expel old messages that do not serve you.
If it doesn’t serve you dismiss it. If it doesn’t make you feel good about yourself then let it go.
Affirm yourself daily.
Even if it seems silly and you don’t believe it. Do it anyways and notice how your feelings follow your thoughts.
I am beautiful. I am a stunner. I look damn good! I got it going on. Whatever you have to tell yourself. Say it. However you need to put it into practice. Do it. Daily!
For me it’s affirmations around my home; in my bedroom, in my bathroom, on my mirrors. They serve as daily reminders of what I now choose to believe about myself.
Choose new beliefs.
What you choose to believe about yourself is a choice. What others say about you doesn’t matter. You get to choose new beliefs that empower and inspire you. Forget what mama, daddy, grandma, sister, friend, brother have to say if it doesn’t support you.
Embrace all of YOU.
Everything about you makes you perfectly you. Everything about you makes you who you are. Everything about you makes you uniquely you.
Embrace it all and I mean everything. Even if you don’t like it. It’s your body. Love, accept and be thankful for it. The less than perfect things about yourself do not define you.
The things that we deem imperfections, flaws and inadequacies, merely make us human; perfectly imperfect. It’s not about what others think about you. It’s what you think about yourself that matters most.
Confidence is an inside thing. Beauty radiates from the inside out. If we listen to what society and other folks consider beauty we would never truly love ourselves. We would never fully measure up. Especially since that messaging is forever changing.
Define your beauty. Check in with your heart and what lies within. There’s true beauty there. You are beauty. Love yourself by practicing PEACE daily.